I totally put an accidental curse on us with my post yesterday. We had a rough teenager day. We thought she was getting better, finding routine, settling in. Apparently she had other plans.
She had to go back to the hospital last night around 8:30. I got to bed at midnight thinking she was all tucked in there, only to get a call at 3:46 am to come pick her up. Who discharges a kid in the middle of the night!
She had not been admitted at the hospital I took her to, but instead was sent to the ER. They told her nothing is wrong, and they couldn't keep her.
So now sleep schedules are off, daily routine was messed with, missed group and individual therapy and she was totally unproductive and mopey the rest of the day. BOO!
Looking forward to our very first FFF Vacay (that is Forced Family Fun Vacation to the layperson) to the coast!!!! Hanging on a giant yacht, pretending to be classy and sophisticated- this is the life!
Thursday, August 1, 2013
HSC
Healthy Supper Club is amazeballs!! I had a super crazy day yesterday- errands, visiting the fam (x2), new job paperwork, cooking, drinking wine, and eating- WHEW! (Please note the absence of my critical nap)
I made it priority to not skip HSC this week, and I am so glad I went. I love when it is a smaller group (there were 5 of us) because we can all really hear each other, and really get to a deeper level. I got to vent my frustrations and got some awesome feedback.
One of the girls had a fan-freaking-tastic idea I had not thought of yet! Could really turn things around! And one of the girls, and a close friend, is hooking my SIL with a 10-day job- win/win on the money and to keep her busy.
HSC is an anchor for me. Those women have helped me through the loss of 2 parents-in-law, job changes, general stress, planning a wedding, being married, protesting the loss of women's rights in Texas, and so so many more things. And I think I am not alone in having survived life with their help. It provides us all with this anchoring.
I am feeling so blessed and loved to have them in my life. :)
I made it priority to not skip HSC this week, and I am so glad I went. I love when it is a smaller group (there were 5 of us) because we can all really hear each other, and really get to a deeper level. I got to vent my frustrations and got some awesome feedback.
One of the girls had a fan-freaking-tastic idea I had not thought of yet! Could really turn things around! And one of the girls, and a close friend, is hooking my SIL with a 10-day job- win/win on the money and to keep her busy.
HSC is an anchor for me. Those women have helped me through the loss of 2 parents-in-law, job changes, general stress, planning a wedding, being married, protesting the loss of women's rights in Texas, and so so many more things. And I think I am not alone in having survived life with their help. It provides us all with this anchoring.
I am feeling so blessed and loved to have them in my life. :)
Monday, July 29, 2013
Moving on Up!
I got a new job! YAH! I had to get a new job because A)I am so miserable at my current one it was significantly affecting my mental health and B) I have to get on Skie's insurance before January and losing my job is one effective way to do that.
I am hoping to also start my private practice in August since I will FINALLY be fully licensed LPC. I have a couple of really amazing friends who have made the transition from agency work to private practice and they are really helping me out. I might have my first client in mid-August!! Scarily Awesome!
We are also totally rocking out on being teenager "parents." Things are overall going smoothly with a bit of boundary testing recently. S has such good instinct for helping her! He knows tons of great things to say! We are "focusing on the positive, while enforcing the rules." It's a mantra.
I got nothing funny going on right now. I wish I could make some good shit up, but got nothing except the normal boring routine :) I am so thankful for that right now- just for the record! I am appreciating boring!
I am hoping to also start my private practice in August since I will FINALLY be fully licensed LPC. I have a couple of really amazing friends who have made the transition from agency work to private practice and they are really helping me out. I might have my first client in mid-August!! Scarily Awesome!
We are also totally rocking out on being teenager "parents." Things are overall going smoothly with a bit of boundary testing recently. S has such good instinct for helping her! He knows tons of great things to say! We are "focusing on the positive, while enforcing the rules." It's a mantra.
I got nothing funny going on right now. I wish I could make some good shit up, but got nothing except the normal boring routine :) I am so thankful for that right now- just for the record! I am appreciating boring!
Thursday, July 18, 2013
The Fatalist and The Optimist
Out of Order, but from July 3, 2013.
I don't want to miss this one.
Guess which one I am playing?
That's right- The Fatalist. But lucky for me S is an eternal optimist!
Skie's attititude: There was a doctor visit on Monday, and while we don't know much more than before, we will most likely have a minor surgery that will open everything up so we can have a baby the old fashioned way! YAH!
Rachel's attitude: There was a doctor visit on Monday. We don't know anything new really. We might, possibly, hopefully, if we are really really lucky (slim chance) be able to have a minor surgery to have a baby old school. BUT, knowing us and the luck we have had the past few years, we will likely have IVF.
Our compromise viewpoint: Ok, it could happen the old fashioned way. Let's wait and see!
:) We have some good and funny conversations! LOL
But I got to cancel my Major surgery that was scheduled for July so that is AMAZING! I was NOT looking forward to 4-5 days recovery time.
We have an appointment July 15 for more test results, and hopefully more answers!
I don't want to miss this one.
Guess which one I am playing?
That's right- The Fatalist. But lucky for me S is an eternal optimist!
Skie's attititude: There was a doctor visit on Monday, and while we don't know much more than before, we will most likely have a minor surgery that will open everything up so we can have a baby the old fashioned way! YAH!
Rachel's attitude: There was a doctor visit on Monday. We don't know anything new really. We might, possibly, hopefully, if we are really really lucky (slim chance) be able to have a minor surgery to have a baby old school. BUT, knowing us and the luck we have had the past few years, we will likely have IVF.
Our compromise viewpoint: Ok, it could happen the old fashioned way. Let's wait and see!
:) We have some good and funny conversations! LOL
But I got to cancel my Major surgery that was scheduled for July so that is AMAZING! I was NOT looking forward to 4-5 days recovery time.
We have an appointment July 15 for more test results, and hopefully more answers!
Hoping For IVF, said no one ever.
July 17, 2013
We found out Monday that IVF is going to be our best shot at having a pregnancy. I had been thinking about that already, so I was not surprised at all. I don't think S was either. We knew after the first round of test results this was going to be on the table early. S has to go through some hard times in the doctor's office in the next month :( Poor guy. He handled his very uncomfortable tests Monday like a champ!
There is still a chance that conceiving a child is not in our plans. We are not focusing on that. We are focusing on two successful surgeries, and looking forward to IVF (said no one ever, except when that is the only chance of being pregnant).
We have been busy preparing for his sister to move in, which should happen today. I am pretty sure these are huge life events I would not normally prefer to be happening concurrently. I was not consulted in the timing of events. I need to talk to someone about that.............. :)
I have been learning a lot about IVF online, which provides me with a lot of comfort. I just like knowing what to expect, and going to the doctor's office knowing the terminology and the choices they will likely explain. There are a ton of acronyms BTW. I am trying to learn them all and might at some point make a list to help me keep track.
I am also looking for a different job. I have a second interview Thursday, and feel that it will be a good opportunity for me. I have to get a new job to be able to do the IVF less expensively. S has amazing insurance and they will cover part of the expense, my job does not offer such a benefit. If I change jobs I can be on his insurance immediately, otherwise we have to wait until January. That's not an ideal situation. S is doing his part of the procedure in late August, so hopefully I can do my part in September. Then hopefully my HP will do his part and we will be preggo in September. Whew! That is a lot of moving parts! The odds of success in a woman my age is high on the first shot, around 44%. And by cycle 3 it is as high as 66%. Hopefully we are part of the 44%, but the ways things are working out, we are preparing for at least 2 cycles. It's the fatalist in me. :)
Luckily I have some acquaintances that have gone through it, and there is a HUGE online community. If you want to check it out this woman's blog is the mecca for all infertility related things. She has twins now, but struggled for a long time. I love the blog roll, because you can pretty much read about someone's experience with whatever you are going through. It's good stuff! http://www.stirrup-queens.com
I am also grateful we have already talked about adoption. We are both totally on board with domestic adoption. If we get twins (there is a higher chance with IVF than with natural conception) great, one and done. If not, we will likely adopt our second (and maybe third) child. I feel relief that we have already discussed that, and have a future game plan. I'm a bit of a planner, just in case that wasn't obvious already. :)
We found out Monday that IVF is going to be our best shot at having a pregnancy. I had been thinking about that already, so I was not surprised at all. I don't think S was either. We knew after the first round of test results this was going to be on the table early. S has to go through some hard times in the doctor's office in the next month :( Poor guy. He handled his very uncomfortable tests Monday like a champ!
There is still a chance that conceiving a child is not in our plans. We are not focusing on that. We are focusing on two successful surgeries, and looking forward to IVF (said no one ever, except when that is the only chance of being pregnant).
We have been busy preparing for his sister to move in, which should happen today. I am pretty sure these are huge life events I would not normally prefer to be happening concurrently. I was not consulted in the timing of events. I need to talk to someone about that.............. :)
I have been learning a lot about IVF online, which provides me with a lot of comfort. I just like knowing what to expect, and going to the doctor's office knowing the terminology and the choices they will likely explain. There are a ton of acronyms BTW. I am trying to learn them all and might at some point make a list to help me keep track.
I am also looking for a different job. I have a second interview Thursday, and feel that it will be a good opportunity for me. I have to get a new job to be able to do the IVF less expensively. S has amazing insurance and they will cover part of the expense, my job does not offer such a benefit. If I change jobs I can be on his insurance immediately, otherwise we have to wait until January. That's not an ideal situation. S is doing his part of the procedure in late August, so hopefully I can do my part in September. Then hopefully my HP will do his part and we will be preggo in September. Whew! That is a lot of moving parts! The odds of success in a woman my age is high on the first shot, around 44%. And by cycle 3 it is as high as 66%. Hopefully we are part of the 44%, but the ways things are working out, we are preparing for at least 2 cycles. It's the fatalist in me. :)
Luckily I have some acquaintances that have gone through it, and there is a HUGE online community. If you want to check it out this woman's blog is the mecca for all infertility related things. She has twins now, but struggled for a long time. I love the blog roll, because you can pretty much read about someone's experience with whatever you are going through. It's good stuff! http://www.stirrup-queens.com
I am also grateful we have already talked about adoption. We are both totally on board with domestic adoption. If we get twins (there is a higher chance with IVF than with natural conception) great, one and done. If not, we will likely adopt our second (and maybe third) child. I feel relief that we have already discussed that, and have a future game plan. I'm a bit of a planner, just in case that wasn't obvious already. :)
Surprise!
July 15, 2013
We are going to be parents.....of an 18-year-old girl!
Not exactly the way we thought our first parenting experience would be, but hey we are rolling with it. S's sister has been struggling lately, she just graduated from high school in May, and isn't quite sure of where she wants to go now. She will live with us and hopefully get some directional orientation.
This weekend we worked hard at cleaning out the bedroom that was the office, and moving the office to the other bedroom. I personally was excited about this change because I have been wanting to do it forever! It looks great now! Our office was a gigantic mess, like seriously gigantic. We also got a new mattress for us! WHOO!!! We also need to get a dresser, I just can't decide what I want in there. I do know I want it to eventually be the baby's changing table. Because it turns out a changing table is a dresser. They are totally the same thing. What a scam. We also talked about having her paint the bedroom and paint a headboard on the wall. She is a very good artist, and I think it would be adorable! I hope she gets to that project soon.
She will be moving in this week sometime, so the blog might get interesting as we navigate the world of parenting a teenager.
In other fertility news, we have an urology appointment today. There will be tests, and results of tests to be had. I am nervously excited as it means movement, and it has to be forward movement because backwards isn't really an option.
We are going to be parents.....of an 18-year-old girl!
Not exactly the way we thought our first parenting experience would be, but hey we are rolling with it. S's sister has been struggling lately, she just graduated from high school in May, and isn't quite sure of where she wants to go now. She will live with us and hopefully get some directional orientation.
This weekend we worked hard at cleaning out the bedroom that was the office, and moving the office to the other bedroom. I personally was excited about this change because I have been wanting to do it forever! It looks great now! Our office was a gigantic mess, like seriously gigantic. We also got a new mattress for us! WHOO!!! We also need to get a dresser, I just can't decide what I want in there. I do know I want it to eventually be the baby's changing table. Because it turns out a changing table is a dresser. They are totally the same thing. What a scam. We also talked about having her paint the bedroom and paint a headboard on the wall. She is a very good artist, and I think it would be adorable! I hope she gets to that project soon.
She will be moving in this week sometime, so the blog might get interesting as we navigate the world of parenting a teenager.
In other fertility news, we have an urology appointment today. There will be tests, and results of tests to be had. I am nervously excited as it means movement, and it has to be forward movement because backwards isn't really an option.
Kid-less Fun Times!
July 8, 2013
Yesterday driving to our friend's pool I was struck by a moment of complete happiness and gratefulness. Wearing bathing suits, Jeep windows down, Bob Marley blaring on the radio I was feeling so grateful. Because I am blessed to have an awesome husband, great friends, the ability to go swimming, enjoying the sun with friends. I realized these are the best days of our lives. These are awesome days, I want to enjoy them. So for yesterday, I did not long for a baby. I did not wish he/she was there with us at the pool. I just enjoyed the life I have, which is pretty awesome.
When we do finally have a baby we won't be able to do the random fun things all the time we do now. Saturday night as an example.
We didn't have any plans Saturday night so I went online to look for something to do. I found a burlesque show was playing at the Spiderhouse. The Spiderhouse has identity issues, It was a coffee shop, which it still is, but also has lots of food, adult beverages, live bands, huge outside patio, and a theater. I saw a live rendition of a Saved By The Bell episode there a few years ago. Seriously, it was hilarious!
Anyways, the Bat City Bombshells were so much fun! We went early, had some food and a beer then saw the show. Afterwards, we were totally going to go home but got to talking to this photographer for Austin360.com. Meeting people-it's sorta what we do. We chatted with our new friend, randomly started talking to other people outside, and before you know it, it was midnight. We had a great time, met new friends, spent time outside, and saw a fun show! Good night, and something that will be dramatically different when we have kids. So for this weekend, all was calm in infertility land :)
Yesterday driving to our friend's pool I was struck by a moment of complete happiness and gratefulness. Wearing bathing suits, Jeep windows down, Bob Marley blaring on the radio I was feeling so grateful. Because I am blessed to have an awesome husband, great friends, the ability to go swimming, enjoying the sun with friends. I realized these are the best days of our lives. These are awesome days, I want to enjoy them. So for yesterday, I did not long for a baby. I did not wish he/she was there with us at the pool. I just enjoyed the life I have, which is pretty awesome.
When we do finally have a baby we won't be able to do the random fun things all the time we do now. Saturday night as an example.
We didn't have any plans Saturday night so I went online to look for something to do. I found a burlesque show was playing at the Spiderhouse. The Spiderhouse has identity issues, It was a coffee shop, which it still is, but also has lots of food, adult beverages, live bands, huge outside patio, and a theater. I saw a live rendition of a Saved By The Bell episode there a few years ago. Seriously, it was hilarious!
Anyways, the Bat City Bombshells were so much fun! We went early, had some food and a beer then saw the show. Afterwards, we were totally going to go home but got to talking to this photographer for Austin360.com. Meeting people-it's sorta what we do. We chatted with our new friend, randomly started talking to other people outside, and before you know it, it was midnight. We had a great time, met new friends, spent time outside, and saw a fun show! Good night, and something that will be dramatically different when we have kids. So for this weekend, all was calm in infertility land :)
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